Why do we invest (emotionally)?

This is an exact repost from an old blog, originally posted in May 10, 2008. Today’s #ThrowbackThursday . Enjoy reading.


Invest (v)
– To spend or devote for future advantage or benefit
– To devote morally or psychologically, as to a purpose; commit
– To endow with authority or power.
– To endow with an enveloping or pervasive quality


As with financial investments, there is always a risk to spending or putting something of value into anything. We typically invest in something, decide to devote time and energy on something hoping that it would turn out good and productive in the end.

Why then do we choose to invest emotionally? Perhaps it’s like other types of investments. When we see the possibility of something good coming out of something, we choose to take the gamble and put a little of our self into it. We put a stake on something when we start to build an affinity to it.

Why do we invest in romantic relationships? We enter romantic relationships to find out the possibility of being together until the far future. You don’t go into it expecting it to fail or end, although we should admit that it is still always a possibility.

So, the investment is a little of ourselves, our emotions, and our commitment. The payback we are wishing for is a wonderful future. But let’s admit it, we don’t always get what we are wishing for. More than anything else, emotional investments are most uncertain.

The real question is, why do we even attempt to invest emotionally, even on things that has relatively no future? Why do we keep on loving people and hoping that these people who would perhaps not disappoint? Why do we give someone else that power over our happiness?

In the end, life turns out to be one big gamble, especially on the matter of love and romantic relationships. You will never have the chance to win unless you bet on something. Oftentimes you don’t win, cause it’s a million-to-one chance. But if you do win, it would really change your life. It’s just up to you, are you brave enough to bet with your heart?

Quarterlife.ph – 2012 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 2,500 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 4 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

Saying goodbye to Multiply

They have already announced it. Starting December 1, 2012, Multiply.com will be reformatting their entire site to focus on servicing online stores, and will be discontinuing the old media blog format they were originally known for. I hear certain alarms going off now.

I have practically 5 years worth of photos and personal blogs there. After Xanga and Frienster, I’ve very well established my online base in Multiply, before I went on-board Facebook, Tumblr, and Twitter. That’s a lot of my stuff there, a lot of which I’ve almost forgotten about.

I decided to backup my stuff as early as possible. They didn’t have any good backup or migration support, except for an option to download all media (photos and videos) in bulk, and completely unorganized. I also had to copy and paste each and every blogpost to my file (on Evernote, actually). It was a little bit messy. But better to have saved the information already than lose it to the digital blackhole that Multiply will be creating, once they finally delete all the users stuff to make space for their current and future endeavors.

Last time something like this happened was when Friendster announced a reformat, as they shifted from being a social community to an online gaming platform. At the very least they were able to provide a good way to back up our info. Also, our Friendster accounts did not contain as much photos and blogs as its successors, Multiply and Facebook, so there were less data to backup.

On hindsight, it was pretty interesting to go back to the posts and photos from way back 2006. It captured a certain period of my life by the last part of my college life up to the first part of my working life. It was a certain stage of growing up and discovering more about the world and about one’s self. I have already changed a lot from who I was then, and I will continue evolving and changing. The old blog posts are a nice way of looking back and appreciating how much I’ve grown.

As for all the old photos, I might go about posting some of them on my Facebook account, and the rest just storing them in my local drive. But I’ll probably upload all my files and photos eventually on my online drive once I am able to weed and sort them.

Well, goodbye Multiply. Thanks for the time you’ve been there as an online refuge. We all move forward now.

http://pulanglangit.multiply.com/

Beautiful Insanity

Now Linked

I have finally put my list of links on my sidebar. How do I choose who I link to? So far I have four categories:

Blogroll – a list of blogs I follow on WordPress. I don’t follow a lot, and not all the ones that I follow are here. I just included those that I read often.
A girl called emily
Antonio Marques Photoblog
Chris Neighbors
Professional Heckler

Favorites – a list of different significant websites for me
Click the City
Rappler (an online news page)
The Mind Museum (the website of the museum where I work)
Travel Factor (interesting travel adventures)

Fun – just entertaining stuff
9GAG
Beerkada Comics
Dilbert
Hello Giggles

Geek Fun – entertaining nosebleed geeky stuff… and yes, I enjoy reading these (because I’m a geek that way)
10 Most Beautiful
PHD Comics
Science Dump
XKCD

I did not include anymore the websites that I always have open : Google Apps (Gmail, Calendar, Docs, etc.), Facebook, and Twitter.

Do you have any other website you’d like to recommend?

The blog that went the other way

I started this blog over a year ago, initially intended for something else. I wanted to setup a website for a specific purpose, a certain online portal for inspiration and coaching, and I was hoping that the blog would be able to jumpstart it all. However, the blog became something quite far from what it originally intended to be. Not that it became something bad or worse. Rather, it just went an entirely different way.

Now I have some people who have chosen to follow me, though not the ones I first thought of while starting this blog. I never realized that there are a lot of different people who would appreciate the things I write and the things I write about. It is wonderful to be able to realize the power of the internet, how it has allowed me to reach out to a lot of different people from across the globe.

Blogging used to be just a passing hobby, which somehow became a duty. Now it has evolved into a certain fondness. There is now a desire to at least try to write about things that make me ponder on a normal day. While driving or running, or sometimes even in the middle of work, certain things or topics strike me and I bookmark them with a title on my digital notebook. And then I try to find the time to expound about it. There are some times that ideas and words just flow out of me full of sense, and I can write one article after another. There are also times I find myself dry, and I put off writing for another day. But I try as much as possible to write something at least weekly

Maintaining this blog has allowed me to grow in many ways. I am able to practice writing, as well as to exercise and become more aware of my thought process. At times, it is also a catalyst to help me understand ideas and situations better.

I find such joy even in the few people who follow, read, and appreciate my posts. I always try to reach outwards, as much as I do inwards, in every article I write.