Torpe is an excuse

Very lightly translated, “torpe” is a Filipino word that usually refers to a guy who is too shy to make the move to pursue a girl that he likes. Interestingly, the translation of the same word from Spanish means clumsy, slow or awkward (which perfectly describes the Filipino translation, actually).

I have lately realised that calling a guy torpe is just an excuse, especially for those beyond or way beyond their teenage years. If you think a guy is torpe, it probably means one of three things:

He’s undecided. Maybe he’s attracted to you, but he’s completely undecided about it. He may be exerting a little effort trying to test the waters. Maybe you’re one of his options. He may be flirting for days, weeks, months, years… or it can go on forever (seriously, I’m not kidding), but it does not give you the assurance that he will eventually pursue.

He has ego issues. He’s afraid of making a fool out of himself. He probably loves himself more than anything else. He does not want to put himself in a position where he can be rejected.

He’s just not that into you. He probably just likes you, but he doesn’t like you “like” you. Maybe he’s just one of the guys who’s sweet and nice to everyone. Or he’s one big flirt. There is a chance that this is just the “friendzone”. Remember: flirting = attention without the intention.

Bottom line, if a guy likes you enough, he’ll take the chance. A bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates, an invitation to go out for coffee or dinner, or even the simple effort of keeping in touch. Trust me, it’s worth sticking out for men who make an effort to let you know that you matter.

Ma-basted man, at least they tried, diba?

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