At 28, and much more often than before, almost everyone is wondering why am I still single (and uncommitted). It’s a very interesting question, because there really is no particular answer. It’s like asking about the meaning of life, or searching for one’s purpose. Interesting to think up possible answers too, and the following may be the usual retort:
- I just haven’t found him yet…
- I’m focusing on my career first…
- The last one was too horrible…
- I really don’t see the point of being in a relationship…
- I’m non-committal…
- I haven’t found anyone who fits my standards…
- I’m still waiting for that “spark”…
- The one’s I like are as nimble and adventurous as me, and it’s so hard to catch them still…
- I don’t think I’ll still be able to find one in this country…
- It’s none of your business…
Which one do you think is the best answer?
To say the least, I actually would rather not think about it. I don’t want to look at being single as a problem to be solved. I don’t want to spend even the tiniest effort worrying about it. It’s my current state, and as far as I am concerned, it does not limit me from doing or achieving anything. So, why bother? It will come when it should, if it should. If it doesn’t, then there is always another way of living one’s life. š
I think that you could have a lot of fun with “The last one was too horrible,” especially if you immediately launched into a far fetched and graphic story of all the ways in which this was so. At least people would stop asking š
I love your attitude, by the way. I’m nearly twenty years older than you and just now getting comfortable in my life with the idea of not being in a committed, long-term relationship.
I’ll try that one sometime. Would be interesting to find out how they will react. š
Another old relic here! I’ve got another good reason for you. “I’m doing it for my (future) kid’s sake.” Much better for them to know you waited for the best father. š
Thank you, that’s a great answer. Would be good to belong as one of my real answers to the question. š